Self-Esteem

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Catherine Middleton explores self-esteem and confidence

If we look in the mirror, what do we see?  More often than not, we are self-critical rather than see the true person we are.

I love the image of a kitten looking into the mirror and seeing a lion looking back, because this is what is inside all of us, the lion heart within.  We may feel like a ‘pussy cat’ at times but overcoming feelings of ‘inadequacy’ will augur well for our general wellbeing.

It is the same in the workplace, we often underestimate our abilities, especially when the pressure is on.  We constantly talk about gaining the necessary skills to enable us to be competent in our current role or gaining stronger attributes to move forward in our careers.  It’s true that skills are important, however what is also important is having the confidence in ourselves to take up the challenge.

Self-esteem and confidence go hand in hand, and one wonders, where this attribute comes from.  Are we born with it, or does it develop throughout our formative years?  Can we ‘learn’ how to be confident and build our self-esteem?

Self-doubt and self-sabotage are terms that tell the story, but why do we self-destruct, when all we want to do is achieve something worthwhile in our careers, our lives?  Are we ‘conditioned’ to think that we are not ‘good enough’ to do something?  Is it the way we were brought up?  For Baby Boomers, perhaps that is the case.  This generation are known as ‘old school’, where children were under strict parental control and in some cases, were ‘seen and not heard’, unlike the generations that followed.

I think it depends on the generation you were born into, as to the level of confidence each one of us possess.

Children in today’s world grow up having a great deal more freedom and one would hope that freedom instills a much higher level of self-worth and hence self-esteem.

So why do we underestimate our capabilities?  Why not take on a challenge just to see where it will take us?

Personally, it has taken a lifetime to become confident in who I am and my capabilities.  Even though I have achieved so much that I’m proud of in my life, I have never thought that I was a ‘success’.  Strange isn’t it? I think perhaps it is because we put so much pressure on ourselves to be ‘perfect’, to be the best at everything whilst wearing multiple hats in both our personal and professional lives.  Whether this is attributed specifically to women I cannot say, but sometimes we are our own worst enemy.

Life really is for living and living means that we must take care of ourselves in body and mind.  We need to be realistic about what is possible and that will depend very much on the number of responsibilities we have at any one time.  This is especially significant as people try to find the equilibrium between home and work.

My career in the demanding and ever-changing field of the professional executive assistant, has covered many fields of industry, from insurance to the medical arena, as EA to the Director of Nursing; EA to CEO of various organizations including the now defunct rugby league team, the Adelaide Rams; and then into the public service, where I worked with the executive team within a South Australian agency for over fifteen years.  In each role I have been enriched both personally and professionally.

I am continuously amazed, and never would have believed how much personal growth occurs when you constantly aim at being the best you can be in your chosen field.  It certainly takes commitment, but when you have a passion for what you do, it comes naturally to offer a high level of service.

My message is to be kind to yourself, achieve what is achievable at any given time in your life, strive to be the best you can be, and enjoy the experience of learning something new every day.  Self esteem is within all of us, we just need to set it free, so that we can emanate confidence in everything we do.

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Catherine Middleton

Catherine Middleton HLM, FAIOP, Dip Mgt. Utilizing experience gained over four decades working within the administrative field, the last twenty as an Executive Assistant, Catherine has embarked on a new arm of her business, Career Management Consultancy. By facilitating workshops for people looking to enter the workforce, or those who are looking to transition their career, she is able to bring a plethora of experience to these forums. For more details www.catherinemiddleton.com.au TIME TO THINK BIG available in paperback & ebook https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0795CF8S1

1 Comment

  1. Patricia Underwood on

    Dear Ms. Middleton,

    Your points are poignant and helped me to understand why I didn’t see the lion in the mirror. I’ve secretly always known I had a self-esteem issue and try as I may to be confident, I haven’t been able to figure out how to bridge the two until now. Learning that it’s linked to my upbringing will allow me to address the cat in the mirror and say politely “I am woman, hear me roar”!
    Thank you, Patricia

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