Making Decisions

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For some people, making a decision is easy. Well, it certainly seems that way.

They weigh up the situation, look at the alternatives and then they make a considered judgement after taking all relevant points into account. Such a decision might be to change jobs, choose a partner, rent a house, book a holiday or invest in a new iPhone!

However, for many others, the process can prove difficult and the decision long in coming because for these individuals, the risk of making a mistake can be frightening and the long-term effects rather scary. If this applies to you, then you are not alone.

Of course, I am not saying that instant decisions are recommended or that one should not properly evaluate all the relevant factors before making a choice.

One reason that making decisions can be difficult is when instead of drawing upon our own experience, and the experience of others, we try to decide either from just what we can hear or see, or from advice from unsubstantiated sources. Your friend tells you what they would do in any given situation and this might well work out for them but at the end of the day, they are not you and what did, or didn’t, work for them may not prove to be the same for you.

Changing jobs

Let us look at Claire, one of my clients. Claire comes to see me because she is looking to change jobs and doesn’t know whether she should or shouldn’t make the break from the firm she has been with for the past five years. She is an Executive Secretary, she likes the company and her colleagues. However, she doesn’t feel that the job “stretches” her and a part of her would like to move. But the other part is telling her that she should stay because changing jobs can be a leap into the unknown. Claire has been considering the pros and cons of moving and after discussing it with her family and friends, she finds she is more unsure now, than before! So she has finally come to consult me to find an answer.

The following are my hints on how to make an informed choice:

  1. De-stress: take your mind away from the actual decision you want to make. Go for a walk, meditate or just relax so that your mind can focus on something else.
  2. Don’t rely on others: certainly talk through your situation with a trusted friend or family member but don’t expect them always to have the right answer. Their role is to help you think through your options. Some of your friends will be good listeners and others will always want to give their advice. Try to choose the good listeners who will facilitate your thinking, as in the end this is your decision, not theirs.
  3. Trust your gut feeling: this is a personal, intuitive feeling or response and even though it might not always be right, it does have an important role in our decision-making process.
  4. Stop pushing: when you are continually pushing yourself, you are putting yourself under pressure and that in turn can become stressful – so stop pushing and let it go.
  5. Have confidence in yourself and your ability: frequently we don’t make decisions because we may think that we might not get it right. But if everyone thought that way, the world would soon stop because decision makers are essential to our society!
  6. Take your time: never rush into something without a cool look at it from “outside the box”.
  7. Maintain focus: focus on the outcome and what it will mean to you, your family and your career prospects – not only in the short-term but also in five years’ time and, possibly, for the rest of your life if the decision is a really important one like getting married or moving abroad or having children or changing careers or running for president!

If you still don’t know what to do, then pick one option and put all your energy and passion into it – in other words, give it everything you have because then you will almost certainly succeed. Being proactive means always being way ahead of those who can never make a decision of their own but just react to those of others.

Which would you rather be?

 

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Carole Spiers

Carole Spiers FISMA, FPSA, MIHPE is the Chair of the International Stress Management Association (ISMAUK) and founder of International Stress Awareness Week. She is an acknowledged authority on corporate stress and CEO of the Carole Spiers Group (London), an International Stress Management & Employee Wellbeing Consultancy. Carole is also a BBC guest broadcaster and author of Show Stress Who’s Boss! and Tolley’s Managing Stress in the Workplace. Carole will be pleased to help, if you are interested in learning about tools and strategies that will help teams to reduce stress, build resilience and improve health and wellbeing. Carole is also part of our Speaker Bureau. If you are interested in Carole training your Assistants or speaking at your event, either virtually or in person, please visit our Speaker Bureau.

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